THE SEVEN LAWS OF LOVE by Dave Wills

THE SEVEN LAWS OF LOVE- Essential Principles For Building Stronger Relationships by Dave Willis is a how to manual on lasting relationships based on seven “laws”. The concepts this writer presents as “laws” are: commitment, sacrifice, speaks truth, conquers fear, offers grace, brings healing, and lives forever. Yes these are valuable concepts but even in a lasting loving relationship there is more; I would argue principles that may be considered more necessary. To me essential principles, as it relates to personal relationships,  should include: like minded faith rooted in a love for God as the foundation; a unified vision for the future if you are going to marry; respect and appreciation for a person’s difference and the ability to freely grow and change.
Unfortunately, I did not like this book. I personally believe love is a gift from God and the more we love God the more we love others (1 John 4:20-21) Thus the greater a persons’ love for God is the greater his or her ability to display love to others. The author uses examples found in the Bible of God’s mercy and grace which indeed demonstrates His love and it is true that we should show the same amount of mercy as well as grace to others but before you can get to showing mercy to others their has to be love within you. (You cannot give what you do not have.)
God’s love should flow to you and through you and overflow on to others. Perhaps the problem with the book is the title. A better title would have been precepts of relationship building. I still would not have liked the book much but it would have changed my expectations.
As always a book review is just the opinion of the reviewer. I am sure there will be many people who will like this book. I don’t think it would be a waste of time to read it I would not buy a copy.

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I recommend this book. I recommend that every church leader in the world read BLACK AND WHITE BIBLE, BLACK AND BLUE WIFE. I recommend every therapist, every law enforcement officer and every person who knows someone who is not being treated as God intended him or her to be treated read BLACK AND WHITE BIBLE, BLACK AND BLUE WIFE. And I especially recommend this book to those who are in unhealthy relationships.

I read BLACK AND WHITE BIBLE, BLACK AND BLUE WIFE with the eyes of a person who left an abusive marriage when the church did not address such issues. As I read this book I recalled a young lady I prayed for at my church who was in an abusive marriage; she left him for about two weeks and then went back, then she stopped coming to church.

I believe the church, though not completely silent, does not say enough about abuse.

Many people think of physical assaults when they hear the term “domestic violence” however most victims will tell you words can be just as detrimental. BLACK AND WHITE BIBLE, BLACK AND BLUE WIFE addresses the issue of abuse from the perspective of a Christian who overcame it.

Women need to know they do not have to stay in an abusive relationship, no matter what religious people say. It is important to know that God wants His children to live in peace and protection.  The author, Ruth A Tucker, shares her journey in reconciling faith and reality as it pertains to her marriage.

I like this book because her story is my story. My prayer is that every church purchase lots of copies of this book and that every church leader share the wisdom found within it’s pages. Xxx MARSHA L F RANDOLPH

Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from the publisher through the BookLook Bloggers <http://booklookbloggers.com> book review bloggers program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255 <http://www.access.gpo.gov/nara/cfr/waisidx_03/16cfr255_03.html> : “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”